Muscle memory for incident stress

Introduction A SOC alert does not knock politely. It arrives like a crowd of people shouting different instructions in a language only half understood. One alert maybe says “ransomware detected,” another could flag “unusual login,” and the logs you trust most are blank. Analysts glance at dashboards, shrug, and whisper to each other over Teams while the CISO insists on updates every five minutes. Virginia Satir’s work gives us a lens for understanding this chaos. She mapped how people respond to stress, communicate under pressure, and shape collective outcomes. Her stances, emotional congruence, and relational awareness offer a way to train teams not just to follow procedures, but to survive pressure without fracturing. ...

October 21, 2025 · 4 min

The audit as x-ray

There is a certain bleak poetry in a security audit. The word audit evokes clipboards, compliance spreadsheets, and the faint smell of burnt patience. But beneath the bureaucracy lies something far more interesting: an act of seeing. A real audit, not compliance theatre, but the kind that leaves everyone quietly re-evaluating their life choices, is less about ticking boxes than about mapping the hidden currents that actually keep an organisation secure. Which is why it belongs not in the company of frameworks, but in the orbit of Virginia Satir, Eyal Weizman, and Trevor Paglen. ...

October 20, 2025 · 6 min
Satir Change Model

How to survive your first incident response

If you have ever tried to set up a Security Incident Response Team (SIRT) function in a small organisation, you will know that it is not about security, incidents, or even teams. It is about humans behaving badly under stress. Enter the Satir Change Model, a tool from family therapy that has no right working in cybersecurity, and yet works better than most “cyber resilience frameworks”. Her five-stage model maps beautifully onto what happens when a small organisation suddenly decides to “get serious about incident response”. Building a SIRT is not about defeating chaos; it is about becoming fluent in it. And once you have done that, “It cannot get any worse” stops being a threat and starts being the team motto making people laugh, sending extra oxygen to their brain. ...

October 16, 2025 · 6 min
The compliance email and defensive correspondence

The compliance email and the collective flinch

Ever received that little gem of an email from IT: “Compliance Reminder”? No greetings, no sugar-coating, just a tiny, accusatory phrase in your inbox like a foghorn in a library. And just like that, the office collectively holds its breath. Instantly, a strange ritual begins. Even the most relaxed of colleagues, those who haven’t touched the company VPN in months, start opening folders, scanning drives, and muttering about forgotten passwords like they’re uncovering ancient curses. Karen from marketing begins tearing through her emails as though the server itself might collapse if she doesn’t click the right links. Greg in finance panics at a spreadsheet he hasn’t touched since 2019, convinced it’s harbouring hidden sins. ...

October 15, 2025 · 4 min
Split-scene illustration of a quiet suburban morning with soft ambient sounds, children playing, versus a chaotic inner-city street of a poor city, filled with sirens, shouting, and traffic

The unequal sense of it all

Income inequality is the elephant in the room. No, scratch that, it’s the entire herd. The rich keep grazing on returns that grow faster than the economy itself, while the rest of us fight over scraps. The rules of society start bending in ways that nobody admits out loud. As Piketty has shown, capital accumulates faster than wages. It creates a feedback loop that is brutally efficient at concentrating wealth at the top. ...

October 15, 2025 · 4 min

The deadly cost of environmental defence

Since 2012, over 2,000 environmental defenders have been killed for standing up against projects that put land, water, and local communities at risk. In 2023 alone, 196 people died: 79 in Colombia, 25 in Brazil, 18 in Mexico, and another 18 in Honduras. Indigenous peoples, about 6% of the global population, accounted for 43% of the victims. The pattern suggests a systemic problem, tied to corporate interests, armed groups, organised crime, and often, state inaction. ...

October 3, 2025 · 4 min

How Weimar mistakes echo today

In Weimar Republic 2.0 (2022), I traced the threads linking the collapse of the Weimar Republic (1919‑1933) to the fraying edges of modern democracy. Weimar did not implode overnight; it came apart via a string of small, human‑sized mistakes, the kind that make history mutter, “Told you so,” under its breath. This post builds on that compass, first examining missteps that felled Weimar, then holding a wary mirror to today’s politics. Consider it a cautious projection, riddled with blind spots, like most maps drawn by people claiming omniscience. ...

October 3, 2025 · 5 min

Inflicting help

“Inflicting help” is the curious human habit of dressing up domination, control, or self-interest in the language of benevolence. It describes well-intentioned or performative actions imposed on others, often without their consent, awareness, or any genuine benefit to them. The giver feels virtuous; the receiver is often disempowered, silenced, or even harmed. The word help suggests care and generosity, but when prefixed with inflicted, it carries the unmistakable sting of condescension and coercion. ...

October 2, 2025 · 10 min

The question now is: what can we do?

The internet is fundamentally broken. The question now is: what can we do? The answer is messy, expensive, and occasionally involves telling very powerful people that their business model is morally questionable. Accepting the obvious First, acknowledge the unpleasant truth: there is no quick fix. Security is not a feature to be bolted on after launch; it is a mindset, a discipline, and a budget item that competes poorly with shiny new apps and quarterly profits. Anyone promising a “secure internet in six months” is either deluded, lying, or hoping to sell you a consultancy package. Acceptance, at least, costs nothing. ...

October 1, 2025 · 3 min · Nienke Fokma
A chaotic swarm of robotic spiders constructed from old IoT devices, their metallic bodies glinting dully, crawls over a fragile, intricate network of servers and cables. Sparks of electricity fly from their joints and the damaged infrastructure.

Why are we not making a defendable internet?

Once upon a time, the internet was described as an “information superhighway”. In truth, it more closely resembles the back alley behind a funfair: noisy, sticky underfoot, and populated by people selling things you probably do not want but will end up buying anyway. It is not defendable in any serious sense, and the extraordinary thing is that everyone knows this but insists on behaving as if surprise breaches and collapses are acts of God rather than consequences of design. ...

October 1, 2025 · 9 min · Nienke Fokma